The word dating is not stated in the Bible, and the Good Book does not explicitly discuss dating.

I searched my Bible concordance, my online Bible reference library, and the internet to see if I could find anything the Bible specifically said about dating.

In Biblical times couples were ‘betrothed,’ or parents arranged marriages.

Hence, young couples didn’t need to spend time with several individuals of the opposite sex to determine which one would make a better spouse.

Some Eastern cultures still participate in arranged marriages.

But most cultures allow the individuals desiring to be married to choose their mates.

Consequently, the process of dating emerged.

Webster’s New Collegiate Dictionary defines a date as “A social engagement between two persons of the opposite sex.”

A male/female notices someone of the opposite sex that they are attracted to and desires to know him/her more intimately.

Microsoft’s thesaurus lists words such as rendezvous, assignation, tryst, and engagement as synonyms for the word ‘date.’

Most Christian men and women don’t want to go on a rendezvous or tryst because the words have traditionally been used for secret meetings, as between lovers.

Most of us would prefer not to go out’ with several people before meeting our soul mate.

We would love for God to point to the individual and say, “That’s the man/woman I created for you.”

But it is not that simple, unfortunately.

God always gives us choices.

We have to choose our life’s mate.

Yes, we must choose to marry Harry or Larry, Betty or Lettie.

We decide if the individual meets the qualities we desire in a mate.

We should seek God’s face for confirmation that we have indeed chosen the person destined to be our lifelong partner.

We should also work on ourselves to be prepared and ready when Jehovah allows us to meet that ‘special’ someone created just for us.

If we’re only concerned about me, myself, and I (self-centered) – we’re not ready.

We’re not ready if we’re insecure, lonely, and super sensitive.

If we’re proud, controlling, condescending, and self-aggrandizing – we’re not ready.

We must ask God what to work on to be a godly, loving, compassionate, supportive spouse.

“Do two walk together unless they have agreed to do so?”____________________Amos 3:3 (NIV)

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