Have you ever heard couples testify that they knew their mate would become their wife/husband the first time they met them?

Most of us waiting for a mate was not that fortunate, not surrendered to God enough, or haven’t matured in our ‘faith’ walk to know when the Holy Spirit was speaking to us.

Or we canceled out the promise of God by the words we let slip from our mouths.

Once we believe we meet the requirements of being a wife or husband of noble character, we’re probably ready to open our eyes to meet ‘that special someone.’

Ladies, in my opinion, men do the chasing, but women do the choosing.

Gentlemen, I’m not implying that you don’t have a voice in the arrangement.

But, if you’ve eyeballed a potential mate and asked her out, you’ve indicated your interest.

I’m just stating that women may have several suitors and must decide which one meets the criteria for the man she wants to marry (prayerfully after seeking guidance from the Holy Spirit).

Usually, the male asks the female to marry him, and the woman, therefore, must choose to accept the man’s request for marriage.

Christian women, it’s okay to flirt and let a Christian man know you are interested.

If you never make eye contact, smile, or flip your hair slightly, how will he know you are paying attention to his advances?

Women must also be mindful when a brother in Christ is flirting with us.

Ladies, according to my great-nephew, Brian, men are just as nervous about approaching females as we are about flirting with them.

They have fears of rejection just like we do.

No one wants to be rejected.

So women must be kind and considerate, even if not interested.

If we are attracted to him, we should smile, hold eye contact for a few seconds, and stop and talk to him.

I’m guilty of rushing out of stores, theaters, and churches after smiling and making eye contact with a single man.

A few days later, I’ll reflect on the meeting and consider that he was flirting with me, trying to approach me, and I didn’t show interest.

“The LORD GOD also said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make for him a suitable helper.” Genesis 2:18 (NIV)