First John 2:16 says, “For all that is in the world – the desires of the flesh and the desires of the eyes and pride in possessions – is not from the Father but is from the world.”
We are in the world but not of the world. We are chosen, set apart, sanctified, Holy children of God. We should not think and act the way the world does. We should not give in to the desires and emotions of the flesh, as the world does. Becoming hurt at the slightest comment, objection, or rejection.
If we walk in love as 1st Peter 4:8 tells us to do, we will be able to repel the super-sensitive feelings. The apostle Peter told us, “Above all, keep loving one another earnestly, since love covers a multitude of sins.”
The apostle Paul also talked to us about love.
He says to, “Let love be genuine. Abhor what is evil; hold fast to what is good.” Romans 12:9.
In other words, we are to detest the evilness of being hyper-sensitive –
- Allowing our feelings to be hurt easily.
- Being controlled by our emotions.
- Letting others’ comments dictate how we act.
We need to think on things that are lovely and of a good report – ponder the good things and not dwell on the negative.
Doing this may keep hurt feelings from creeping in and destroying a relationship.
King Solomon said in Proverbs 15:1 that “A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.”
And in Proverbs 12:18 “There is one whose rash words are like sword thrusts; but the tongue of the wise brings healing.”
If we have an attitude of replying sharply, rudely, and disrespectfully to others now, that same attitude will carry over into our marriage.
We must work on the attitude problem before we get to the altar.
Paul told us in Ephesians 4:32, “Be kind to one another, tender hearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.”
Do you think one might have a forgiveness problem that causes one to be super-sensitive?
Perhaps, if we tried being kind to others, tenderhearted, and forgiving; others’ comments wouldn’t hurt our feelings so easily.
If we were busy treating people the way we want to be treated – kind, tenderhearted, forgiving, compassionate, loving –
we’d be so busy being kind to others –
we wouldn’t have time to react to the attitudes and comments of others.